CAN YOU HAVE IT ALL???

So first lets start out by takin care of the business of saying a very warm and heartfelt HELLO to all of you.. I know that I have'nt been as visible as I was, but you all have been in my heart! And the wonderful thing is that thankfully when I return...you're always there waiting... THANK YOU ALL SO MUCH for your support and your love.

I must say that the title of this offering is one that I have been tarrying with for some time....Really PONDERING it if you will.. And it's one that I don't know that I have the answer to. We strive to have to all the things we desire and work feverishly to have ALL the things that we want out of life.. but is it possible to have it all... Is it even wise to labor toward this goal. Is it even realistic to think that you can? To have the perfect career, to have the relationship, to have the family... To have all these things and to be present in all areas of your life.. Can this be done???? I say this to you, I ask these questions and at the same time I am asking them of myself.. Are you pulled in all directions? Do you constantly find yourself making  difficult choices between the career and family and friends... and how does one find balance? Is it possible to balance all of these things and sucessfully juggle them without something coming crashing to the ground? I find myself these days attempting to maintain all of these life pressures.. and wondering how I can align myself so that all flow smoothly and I am not devoting too much of myself to one and neglecting the other. I am seeing a wonderful man (we'll call him..."Devoted Follower Of Fashion"), I have a career, I have all of my family, I have my wonderful close friends... I have everything finally that I wanted.. and Im getting a chance to do all of the things that I have ever wanted but the other day Devoted Follower said to me that in a round about way he felt that I had been neglecting my individual self to build on this new more relationship friendly dimension of myself.

I had to take a stp back and wonder to myself if this was true, and how to do whatever needed to be done about it.. I mean I looked at all the things that I had going on in my life and realized that I do have a lot that Im working on at one time and have been really putting a lot of juice into trying to build something with this gentleman and then giving the leftovers to my job and my family and friends and even myself..... but I firmly believe that every area of your life requires care.. attention and love.. But how does one spread it all between the vast landscape? Is it possible to have it all or does one have to choose? I look at Diana Ross.. In the visual we see her electric smile as she is surrounded by her new husband children... All the elements are present here.. the career was hot, as she made the cover of people at the time.. the love life is here in force.. she has her husband....and the family is accounted for...IE her daughter Chudney... but even she couldn't balance it all.. and today we find her still with her family strong, and her career well taken care of as a legend in the business with over 40 years under her belt. But the love life... it fell away.. She does not have a man in her life and at some point she had to make a choice.. It is said that she found it difficult to give up and part of herself in order to mesh into her husbands life and world..preferring to live in America while her husband kept residence in Norway..he in turn refused to set up house in the states.. What happened? The marriage eneded..  A casualty of attempting to have it all and ending up losing something in the end.

I firmly believe that it's nice in theory to think that yes we can be these wonderful well rounded full beings and have these terrific careers and these beautiful hot steamy romances complete with great friends and family... but I dont know yet if I believe that it can be done.. For one.. the men will suffer if all you do is work all the time, or put in the amount of work that is needed to maintain even a fair to middling career...and he's not gonna like being left alone all the time like that.. So I feel at this time.. that what one must do.. is to close your eyes...and jump right in and try to do the very best that you can.. Diahann Carroll said that she doesn't believe that you can.. But Diana Ross says that you can...Who's right?